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Making Decisions – Process and Action – By Tom Conway

Making Decisions – Process and Action – By Tom Conway




Many people don’t realize they already have a plan – one of the government’s choosing and not their own. If they pass on to eternity today, some existing plan will kick into gear, and it may not be what they want.


When people make decisions that will impact the lives of others, it is important to realize that today’s decision need not be their final decision. Because of extended lifespans today, there is a very good chance that they will revisit their plan and change it. Most decisions are not irrevocable. 


Former CEO and business psychology author William B. Given, Jr. gives this sound advice: “When possible make the decisions now, even if the action is in the future. A revised decision is usually better than one reached at the last moment.


So what keeps people from making these decisions? Consider these factors.


Lack of Clarity


One factor is lack of clarity on what the individual or couple wants to do. When people are unsure of the objective they want to accomplish, they have no confidence in making a decision, 




Fear is another factor that handcuffs decision making. Fear that they will make a wrong decision. Much of this fear is tied to emotional uncertainty.


Inadequate Information


Sometimes people don’t make decisions because they don’t have enough information. In the wealth transfer arena, people are often uncertain of what their children will do with the wealth they entrust to them. Will they be good stewards or managers of what they are given? Will they squander it frivolously?




Couples generally differ in personality type, with one likely to make quick decisions while the other wants more time to think – the intuitive versus the analytical. One may embrace risk while the other desperately wants to avoid it. One is likely to favor logical thinking while the other is more concerned about feelings and possible consequences for the people involved.


Don’t know how


Many people do not have a decision-making process they trust. What do I mean by a process? I mean a step-by-step decision-making process that leads to a decision they can live with. The decision they come to may not be the perfect one, but it is the best alternative at the time based upon the information they have.


A Decision-Making Process


A decision making process that I learned and have used over the years with clients has ten steps:


1) Pray for guidance. Prayer and meditation can often help you gain clarity around a decision.

2) Define the decision. What is the question you are trying to answer – the problem you are trying to solve?

3) Clarify your objectives.

4) Prioritize the objectives.

5) Identify your alternatives.

6) Evaluate the alternatives.

7) Make a preliminary decision.

8) Assess the risk. What could go wrong if I make this decision?

9) Make the decision.

10) Test the decision over time for future improvement.


Ask yourself: Do you really want to live with the current reality? Engaging an advocate is often the most efficient and effective way to break out of indecision and inaction.


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Tom Conway leads Conway and Associates in assisting families to get clarity around what they believe God wants them to do with their resources.



A CPA by training, Tom has held numerous ministry and financial service positions with such organizations as Ernst & Young, Campus Crusade for Christ, Ronald Blue and Company, Perimeter Church, Generous Giving Inc., National Christian Foundation, Kingdom Advisors, and the Haggai Institute in Atlanta.



Tom has a passion for legacy planning that encompasses five areas: personal, family, financial, business, and philanthropic. As he helps people quantify their needs for the future, what they wish to leave for their family, and how the remainder of their resources can be released to organizations that reflect their values, it often leads to zero-estate-and-IRD-tax situations.



Living and serving in Africa for a number of years and ministering extensively in Europe, Asia, and Russia enhanced Tom’s Christian global perspective.



Tom and his wife, Susan, have been married for thirty-five years, have four children and four grandchildren, and live in Atlanta, Georgia.

How to Deal with Disappointment

How to Deal with Disappointment


Quotables: “Everything that has made humanity great came from setting high standards and having high visions for ourselves. There is nothing wrong with expecting a lot of ourselves. Having a learning mindset prevents you from being disappointed.” – @BrendonBurchard

This is Brendon filmed in a single take and unscripted, just ranting about life and high performance without notes or a prompter.

Brendon Burchard is a #1 New York Times bestselling author whose books include THE CHARGE, THE MILLIONAIRE MESSENGER, and LIFE’S GOLDEN TICKET. Larry King named him “one of the top motivation and marketing trainers in the world.” 

Enthusiasm: Johan Driessens

Enthusiasm: Johan Driessens


Johan Driessens is known as an enthusiasm coach or, even stronger, an enthusiasm artist or enthusiasm strategist . Since 6 years he has worked with hundreds of entrepreneurs en co-workers as a coach and he is known as an enthusiasm-strategist who always succeeds in re-boost, or even re-shape businesses and people with more hunger, drive, passion and enthusiasm. 
In this turbulent economic times he believes that enthusiasm is not only the fastest way but also the most inspiring way to make a difference in the market. He believes that if you are fired up with enthusiasm this will lead to more clients, more profit,more creativity, more credibility, more fun and most of all more passion for yourself and everyone involved…

Jane McGonigal: Massively multi-player… thumb-wrestling?

Jane McGonigal: Massively multi-player… thumb-wrestling?


jane mcgonigal

What happens when you get an entire audience to stand up and connect with one another? Chaos, that’s what. At least, that’s what happened when Jane McGonigal tried to teach TED to play her favorite game. Then again, when the game is “massively multiplayer thumb-wrestling,” what else would you expect?

Reality is broken, says Jane McGonigal, and we need to make it work more like a game. Her work shows us how.




Jane McGonigal asks: Why doesn’t the real world work more like an online game? In the best-designed games, our human experience is optimized: We have important work to do, we’re surrounded by potential collaborators, and we learn quickly and in a low-risk environment. In her work as a game designer, she creates games that use mobile and digital technologies to turn everyday spaces into playing fields, and everyday people into teammates. Her game-world insights can explain–and improve–the way we learn, work, solve problems, and lead our real lives. She served as the director of game R&D at the Institute for the Future, and she is the founder of Gameful, which she describes as “a secret headquarters for worldchanging game developers.”


Several years ago she suffered a serious concussion, and she created a multiplayer game to get through it, opening it up to anyone to play. In “Superbetter,” players set a goal (health or wellness) and invite others to play with them–and to keep them on track. While most games, and most videogames, have traditionally been about winning, we are now seeing increasing collaboration and games played together to solve problems.

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Emotional Intelligence – Daniel Goleman

A quick temper will make a fool of you – Bruce Lee

The difference between Ability, Motivation, and Attitude – Lou Holtz

Whatever you believe with feeling becomes your reality – Brian Tracy

It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light – Aristotle Onassis